Sunday, July 5, 2009

Feeling tired...overwhelmed...

I came across an article on a blog I follow called DebtKid. The name of the article is Me vs. Martha (as in Martha Stewart). It doesn't have to do with debt (or Martha really), but the ridiculous standards we hold ourselves to. The author points out that we are our worst critic. Spending all our time judging ourselves and disregarding our real talents. Here are a few parts that really spoke to me...

"We all have a lot of obstacles and barriers to hurdle through – all in a world that demands instant results. After all, this is a new age: the age of multitasking. Whether you tweet, email, get directions or play a game on your cell phone, the point is that you can do all of it and more. We should be eternally grateful for so many opportunities, but instead we still wrestle with feelings of guilt. The problem with being able to do anything — at any time, from anywhere — is that part of you starts to believe you should. People are not physically capable of taking advantage of the myriad options available. Our energy is finite."

"So many of us spend our time constantly questioning ourselves, our actions, our results, our ideas and, in the end, our intrinsic value. We denigrate our own efforts, our aspirations, anything that is positive, simply because we believe we don’t measure up to some artificial standard that we would never think to impose on others."

This uplifted me. It was a reminder especially for us ladies who juggle so many roles in life, wife, mother, sister, friend, aunt, housekeeper, worker, etc. that our worth is not tied to how well we perfect these roles or perform the tasks involved. We all have strengths and weaknesses and I know I tend to beat myself up when I can't do something "right" or can't get everything done. It was so great this afternoon to be able to put everything aside and curl up in bed with Payton to watch Robin Hood. I am always so busy getting stuff done around the house or working, I miss that he has begun to recite some of the words to the movie. I got to see his delight that he remembered the words and he would laugh at the funny parts and turn around to look at me to make sure I had seen it too. Chores are not worth missing this! Someday I will hire a maid and have the best of both worlds, but until then, I am greatful for what I have been given by Christ and I sing my hubby's praises for helping me with the chores (or doing most of them :0) )!

I hope all of you see your true inner beauty today! You are loved!!

2 comments:

Stephanie said...

Your worth is more than you realize and you are right, it is about the Robin Hood laughs. Hold those times near. To quote one of my favorite songs, Hold tight to the sound of the music of laughter, hold them near while there here, don't wait for tomarrow, and look back and wish for today. For we have these moments to hold in our hand, to touch as they slip through our fingers like sand, yesterdays gone and tomarrow may never come but we have this moment today.

moose2534 said...

I hear ya honey. I have felt just totally physically and spiritually defeated lately. I love the kids & I am tired of getting angry, and yelling, and crying. Sometimes I just feel like I cant make it but the little happy times are all that keeps me going. When we stop finding the quiet, happy, loving moments thats when we are in trouble. I miss you and I am sorry how the last few days have gone (it doesnt help we have all been sick and there were a lot fewer quiet happy moments). see ya tonight.